Child-free couple have 12 holidays a year and don't want to 'end up miserable'

A childless couple have revealed why they’re not keen on having children – revealing their status as non-parents means they have sex four times a week, take 12 holidays a year and enjoy a lie-in every weekend.

According to 28-year-old Taylor Vasu and her husband Justin, 27, from Orange County, California, they don’t want to be ‘sad about having a baby’.

The couple is deliberately childless and labels themselves as DINKS – meaning dual income no kids.

Taylor and Justin, who have been together for six years, spend their free time traveling, going on impromptu lunch dates, working out together and sleeping over on weekends.

They book time off work at ‘weeks’ notice’ and say they have ‘wild sex’ four times a week.

The couple (pictured) say not having children allows them to enjoy free time and they take 12 holidays a year

Taylor believes it would be ‘irresponsible’ for her and Justin, an IT sales executive, to have children now as they are ‘expensive’, and wants to wait until they are ‘financially ready’.

Instead of putting money aside for future children, the couple is saving to buy a house.

Taylor is ‘terrified’ that having a child could put a strain on a marriage – and says she doesn’t want to end up like other people she knows with ‘often miserable’ children.

Taylor, an interior designer, said: ‘Most people say when you have a baby – your life is over.

‘It doesn’t want us to have any. People sometimes make me feel guilty because my maternal clock is ticking.

‘I tell them – ‘You are only mad at the consequences of your actions, I don’t want to be as miserable as you.’

‘We can do whatever we want, whenever we want, and I don’t want to give that up.’

The married couple met in college in July 2017 and married in Hawaii in June 2022 and aren’t planning on having children anytime soon.

According to Taylor (pictured with Justin), people have told her more than once after having children, ‘your life is over’.

Now the couple (pictured) say they want to save and make sure they are financially ready before starting a family

Taylor said the pandemic was a major factor in their decision to stop having children.

He said: ‘We lost two years of our lives to Covid. We both love to travel – it’s always been a cornerstone of our relationship.

‘Now that the world is working again, we want to see all the places we missed.’

This year they plan to visit Mexico, Colorado, Utah, Texas, New York and even Italy, and Taylor thinks having a baby will be a liability to their travel plans.

The global couple has big travel plans and want to visit Mexico, Colorado, Utah, Texas, New York and Italy this year – which will be difficult to do with a family.

He said: ‘We have friendships with young children and we see how much it stops their lives.

‘You rarely see a couple traveling to Tahiti with a newborn. Children depend on you a lot.’

Taylor and Justin enjoy their spontaneous lifestyle and are ‘reluctant’ to give it up for the sake of having children.

They enjoy working out together at the beach, having drinks at lunch, playing golf after work, and visiting friends on the weekends.

Taylor said: ‘It’s really up to us to make our schedule. We like a spontaneous plan, and when you have kids, that’s not possible.’

Taylor also believes that being child-free helps keep the spark alive in the bedroom.

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She said: ‘You’re not as tired, so you can have wild sex during the week if you want.

‘You work out together in the morning, so the foreplay starts as soon as you wake up.

‘By the end of the night you want to jump the bones of your mates. When you have children, you don’t have time for that.’

Taylor is ‘terrified’ about the impact a child would have on her marriage and wants to be financially stable before considering having children.

She said: ‘Your life becomes about your child and you forget about yourself and your marriage.

In addition to prioritizing travel, Taylor notes that many people lose their identity and lose sight of their marriage when they start having children.

‘It’s really important to maintain your independence in a relationship, but it becomes really difficult with children because they depend on you.

‘It’s hard to hold on to your identity.

‘Having children is expensive. I want to buy a house and get a good 10-15k

‘We want to wait until we are financially ready to have children, to do the bulk of the traveling and give our children the best possible life.

‘I want to be the kind of person whose life doesn’t stop after having children.

The couple said that right now, they want to enjoy their relationship together and then think about children in the future when the time is right

‘I’m afraid of being a bad parent, so I want to take care of myself first.

‘When you have children, your weekends are over, date nights – forget about it – and intimacy goes down the toilet.

“Financially and mentally we are not ready. I still want to spend time with my husband and have fun.

‘At the moment we’re really enjoying being young and in love, and we don’t feel the need to have any kids anytime soon.’

Justin said: ‘I’m on the same page. I want kids eventually, but right now, I want to enjoy my time with Taylor and enjoy our relationship.’

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