Mom Explains Why Grandparents Can't Hug Her 2-Year-Old Whenever They Want And Have To Ask For Consent

Every parent has their own ideas about how they want to raise their child. Some people prefer to have stricter rules while others are more laidback, for example. With the emergence of the internet, parents across the world have been able to share which techniques they think are best to raise a healthy and happy child; some approaches are universally applauded, while some spark an intense debate.

For example, one mom on Reddit explained to people on the internet that her six-year-old daughter had bitten her grandmother because she doesn't like being hugged, which led to a debate about whether grandparents have a right to hug their grandchild as they please. Many mothers have now started using internet platforms to echo the same thought, adding that consent should be required for any family members including grandparents to actually show physical affection towards their children.

Brittany Baxter, an Australian mom, has passionately supported this point through a series of TikTok videos, where she explains that all grandparents should be asking for permission before hugging her two-year-old daughter. She also goes further and says that no one has a right to demand any physical affection from her daughter. This video uploaded in April 2021 has since led to debates about whether this practice is fair or valid, and has a lot of people joining in on the conversation. For Baxter, however, there are no two ways about it, and her series of videos on why consent should be important even for toddlers and young children have made waves on the internet.

Baxter discusses that her two-year-old daughter's grandparents continue to cross boundaries despite explaining it to them time and again. She also adds that even her toddler daughter can understand how consent works, but for some reason, the adults don't seem to like it and take the boundaries personally. In one of her TikTok videos, Baxter starts, "As a parent, I practice consent with my daughter and something has been really bothering me lately..."

She decided to take her thoughts to the TikTok platform, and asked, "Can we please start normalizing the fact that kids do not have to kiss and hug adults?"

She explained that she has been teaching her daughter about consent from the day she was born and that she finds it really "unhelpful when the adults in her life are like 'What, we have to ask for a kiss and a hug?' even though I’ve explained why multiple times. And then when she says no, they’re like 'Oh, she doesn’t love me, my feelings are so hurt,' and then they proceed to overstep her body boundaries anyway."

She continued, "My daughter and her body do not exist to make anyone feel more comfortable and to make anyone feel more loved. It is not her fault and it is not my fault that the older generation haven't taken the time throughout their entire lives to learn how to regulate their emotions/feelings so consent doesn’t continue to be overlooked."

For Baxter, "No one’s feelings are ever going to be more important than my daughter’s right to her own body."

Baxter discusses that her two-year-old daughter's grandparents continue to cross boundaries despite explaining it to them time and again. She also adds that even her toddler daughter can understand how consent works, but for some reason, the adults don't seem to like it and take the boundaries personally. In one of her TikTok videos, Baxter starts, "As a parent, I practice consent with my daughter and something has been really bothering me lately..."

She decided to take her thoughts to the TikTok platform, and asked, "Can we please start normalizing the fact that kids do not have to kiss and hug adults?"

She explained that she has been teaching her daughter about consent from the day she was born and that she finds it really "unhelpful when the adults in her life are like 'What, we have to ask for a kiss and a hug?' even though I’ve explained why multiple times. And then when she says no, they’re like 'Oh, she doesn’t love me, my feelings are so hurt,' and then they proceed to overstep her body boundaries anyway."

She continued, "My daughter and her body do not exist to make anyone feel more comfortable and to make anyone feel more loved. It is not her fault and it is not my fault that the older generation haven't taken the time throughout their entire lives to learn how to regulate their emotions/feelings so consent doesn’t continue to be overlooked."

For Baxter, "No one’s feelings are ever going to be more important than my daughter’s right to her own body."

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